Why I Quit

Why I Quit

I quit watching the news on January 8, 2009…

Ok, I have caught myself maybe 4 times watching a broadcast.

I have been addicted to politics and world events since I can remember. I used to pride myself on understanding, as well as I could, what was going on and how events “would impact me” and the people around me. My wife would say I was obsessed. I would check the stock market every 20 minutes, follow the daily news stories and rant all day about what “the mess” we are in.

I found myself falling into a huge depression as I wondered what happened to all of the people that were losing their homes and jobs. I would literally yell at the tv during news casts in anger about what was going on around me.

This is obviously not the type of environment I wanted my 2 year old daughter Grace to grow up in.

So I quit.

I didn’t even watch the inauguration. Something I could have never imagined missing in the past. I quit watching the stock market except to check in for a quick peek once every couple of days. But I didn’t spend hours reading message boards and new stories on the latest scandal or fraud case. I just ignored it all.

I am the happiest I have ever been since I have quit.

Since I quit I have made several new friends, spent more time getting to know my neighbors and most importantly have been able to create a happy and stress free environment for my daughter, my wife and myself.

My childhood friend just called me and was feeling depressed about what was going on in the world and his frustration about needing to find a job and fast. He was desperate and wanted to talk.

For every idea I gave him, he had 6 excuses of why he couldn’t do THAT. So I would respond with a simple question, “So, you do or do not NEED to make money?”. Each time he would explain he did and would do anything. I would give him a suggestion and he would give me more excuses.

I must have given him a dozen ideas of things that he could do to make money.

I finally told him to “quit” and call me when he was ready to make a change and hung up. Not the nicest thing, but I just couldn’t go around in circles any more.

Then I got a skype message from my friend, Jason Fladlien. If you know anything at all about Jason, then you know that he is one of the hardest working people on the face of the planet. Not only that, but when he needed money he painted houses until he could build his online business, was a monk and even a rap star (Go J-Flad…), basically whatever he needed to move forward.

He is a guy that isn’t afraid to try something because of some comfort zone or let what other people think of him dictate what he does (take a look at his picture here if you don’t believe me).

Jason started telling me that he was having a record day in sales and how excited he was.

It just opened my eyes to how different two people’s experiences can be based on their attitude and work ethic.

Now I am looking at my own business since I had an “attitude adjustment”. I spend my business time studying productivity, time management and enhancing relationships that I have.

I now find that I am happier and more peaceful than I have ever been in my life. When I focus on my family, I am with my family. When it is time for business, I make sure I am focused and spend my time doing things that will set the foundation for the future.

Since I have quit, my business has transformed and I am working less and making more money than I have ever had, all from a little attitude adjustment and some refocusing.

So what is holding you back? What thing can you change that will not only make you more money but also increase your general happiness and quality of life? Leave your comment below.

Lance

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Comments (28)

  • Tom Campbell Reply

    I’m totally with you. It is for the same reason we dropped broadcast & cable TV before the kids were born 10 years ago (we do buy DVDs). Greatly improved quality of life. Good move, Lance.

    March 3, 2009 at 3:55 pm
  • Aisling D'Art Reply

    Making the choice not to watch the news is a great idea. I read the headlines about once a week, just to remind myself why I’ve chosen a different path.

    It’s not denial, or putting my head in the sand. I’ve simply learned that I can’t do anything about the global economy except work on my own success.

    Towards that end, I think it’s important for us not to play the fiddle while Rome burns, so to speak. Applying ourselves to our businesses is more important than ever before.

    I really enjoyed your post. The difference between getting stuck in depression and having a successful day (day after day) may be just an attitude adjustment, as you said.

    March 3, 2009 at 3:55 pm
  • Jey Kumara Reply

    Hi Lance,

    How are you doing. I had a great time watching your course the other day. Working on building my list using your ideas. Great, keep up the good work.

    Jey Kumara
    http://www.jeykumara.com/

    March 3, 2009 at 3:59 pm
  • UNLEASHED_Marketer Reply

    Lance,

    Until we get the feel that no matter how bad the economy is, or whoever is the “sitting president”, or other Uncontrollable stuffs that can or may happen, THE REST IS ALL UP TO ME. With God as our ever-inspiring Guide and a resilient attitude & spirit present in us, I have learned to say like those in the same boat like myself<

    “If it’s gotta’ be, it’s all up to me!”

    I enjoyed your post and just ‘nailed-this-post’ as reasons why I must quit thinking the other way around. Thanks Lance!

    P.S. BTW, I got inroduced to JFladlien products because of you. Thanks again!

    ~ rommel ;p

    March 3, 2009 at 4:05 pm
  • Judy Kettenhofen Reply

    Woohoo!

    Why can’t we realize the wisdom of “we have nothing to fear but fear itself”?

    We need to stop calling things by names that are known to so-called expert economists who have no clue what to do.

    This isn’t a recession. This isn’t a depression.

    This is an upheaval.

    Things are changing — more radically than they have.

    People still need things. People won’t have as much money to spend on non-necessities. People will re-evaluate what they really need.

    Many years ago I studied with a shaman. One of the things he had me do was to remove the word “need” from my language.

    The other day I was looking at failblog.org. It cost me nothing…but I have gotten literally hours of pleasure and laughter out of that site.

    Before the Internet, where could I have gotten so much pleasure for so little? Maybe tv? But I didn’t have that many choices in what to watch as I do in what I can read.

    We’ve got to stop thinking about what we don’t have, and glory in what we have.

    I hope you don’t mind me mentioning this, since it’s a product I sell. One of the ways of transforming your experience in every day is to choose what to focus on, as you point out.

    One of the things we can focus on that can provide us with immense pleasure and enjoyment is gratitude. For a fairly inexpensive price, people can pick up an electronic gratitude journal here: http://www.TheGratitudeJournal.com .

    Thanks…I’m ready for a revolution in thought, in thinking, in attitude…let’s stop being imprisoned by the doom and gloom of those who are losing and only choose to focus on what they are losing.

    Live JoyFully!

    Judy Kettenhofen, Profit Strategist/Copywriter
    NextDay Copy
    http://www.NextDay-Copy.com

    March 3, 2009 at 4:07 pm
  • Cary Reply

    You’re right on. The media is making us all crazy. They only make money if they capitalize on misery and depression. When was the last time you actually heard something positive.

    I too have decided to leave my TV off, not to watch CNN or MSNBC etc. I have vowed to work hard and leave those things that I have no control over to those that love to wallow in fear and anxiety. That’s just not for me…..

    March 3, 2009 at 4:08 pm
  • Justin Reply

    I am with your brother. I quit watching the news and such stuff long long ago. No news may not be good news, but the trash we get a daily diet of is un-excuseable. Why let them pollute our minds with their visions of doom and gloom?

    Neither have I read a newspaper since I cannot remember when nor listen to the radio. Shoot, I cannot even tell you won the election, but I can sure tell you who lost. We did.

    Thanks for the nice reminder why we should not follow the herd.

    March 3, 2009 at 4:21 pm
  • Hamant Reply

    Hi Lance –
    I must admit I saw your emails and thought why ? is there something I am not aware thats happenned overnight!
    Wow – that was a relief …

    Yes I agree with you 100% – I came across this aspect quite some time ago when I first came across JAmes Braush’s Blog and he challenged his readers to “dump” the TV and spend quality time either getting an internet business online or spending time with family.
    It’s quite amazing how many people get caught up with the doom and gloom.
    I realize that there is a real problem out there and people are feeling it but I am sure that the media really make it worse.
    I’m also convinced that if people spent more of their time in the positive world, circumstances would not be that bad.

    I came across this Video that is on my url.
    Very interesting, indeed.
    We have to shut out what we kknow is bad for us and actually see what is actually “real” .

    Great post Lance – Many thanks

    Hamant

    March 3, 2009 at 4:28 pm
  • Puppydazzles Reply

    I find that working hard keeps me free from whining about the economy. Trusting in God makes me sure of water and bread. He has never let me down. TV, however, gets worse and depressing.

    March 3, 2009 at 4:32 pm
  • Zsolt Eszes Reply

    I haven’t had a TV in my home for about a year, and it’s been great. Sure, I miss a lot of my favorite TV shows. But thanks to Netflix, I can order my favorite shows on-demand, or have them shipped on DVD right to my door.

    Being “naive” to the world sure makes me feel good haha. Not having to deal with the constant depression and tragedy. Another man lost his job. Another child was abducted. Another bomb went off half-way across the world. I definitely feel for those victims, I do…but there’s not a whole lot I can do about them. All I can do is protect myself, and make MY life better, while hopefully finding a way to help others in the process.

    If you remember from “The Secret” or “Master Key System”, we attract what we think about and feel about. If we’re constantly thinking about the sorrow, depression and bad state of this country and world, then guess what…we’re just going to get more of it. In that sense, the media is “responsible” for the constant drama. They’re broadcasting to millions of people, those millions of people think about what’s going on, and we get more of it, so the media broadcasts it, millions of people think about it, and we get more of it, etc, etc, etc. If everyone were to turn off the news, and started thinking about more positive things, this world would quickly become a much better place.

    Just my two cents…ok, so maybe three cents 😉
    ~Zsolt

    March 3, 2009 at 4:33 pm
  • Michael Masade Jr. Reply

    Hi Lance,

    That’s a poignant message you have there.

    I need THAT mindset… I mean I’ve also switched off from all the sad and depressing news around me. Only today a friend was telling me about all the people she knew that had been laid off… I told her that I was making things happen for myself, working for myself. I meant in regards to my freelance graphic design business because mind you I’ve still not totally taken to IM since I started “collecting” ebooks.

    I mean I guess I have all the knowledge but I am yet to take action… A number of things hold me back… Fear of failure, paralysis due to analysis: I battle with this alot.

    I even have your products; I’ve attended TWO of your first webinars… the niche and list building seminars. And most of all I’ve even spoke to you via email.
    But yet I’m still haven’t put your information to the test… It’s painful hearing this out loud to myself even as I type this.

    So I guess your entry today has made me think… I look around me and despite the masses of people that are into IM for instance when I log onto the Warrior Forum; there is still alot of people that are yet to capitalise on the internet in these desperate times… I know this and appreciate this even more now.

    Thank you for your inspiring thoughts.

    I need to get to work…

    Michael Masade Jr.

    March 3, 2009 at 4:37 pm
  • Susan Reply

    Great post, Lance.

    There used to be a Good News TV broadcast years ago, but they didn’t last long. I’m sure it wasn’t because there wasn’t enough good news to go around – they probably just got beaten to death by the ratings or the cost of broadcasting.

    Wonder if there’s a niche in that? I get a periodic newsletter with heartwarming, uplifting stories, but they are always struggling even to pay their hosting costs and eventually must resort to begging. Doesn’t anybody WANT to hear something other than doom and gloom and how we’re probably gonna nuke ourselves into eternity by 2012? There are alternative ways of looking at everything. The Chinese characters for “crisis” translate to “dangerous opportunity” after all – and I think they might have been on to something.

    Thanks for reminding us where to focus our attention!

    ::Susan::

    March 3, 2009 at 4:42 pm
  • Tammie Neumiller Reply

    That’s a great post Lance!

    I stopped listening to the news months ago – it was probably last October. I refuse to put myself in that frame of mind. I found that I could not function, had a hard time dealing with clients and moving forward in my business – and of course being happy with myself and my family.

    Now I am doing much better, I have some new clients, I am creating a new free teleclass, and I feel terrific. I’m moving forward instead of cementing myself in the depression. It naturally doesn’t mean that I have no stresses now, but I’m taking control of my own environment which has done me a world of good!

    Good going! And I encourage everyone else to do this as well!

    Tammie

    March 3, 2009 at 5:27 pm
  • Paul Saunders Reply

    Once upon a time, humans lived in small tribes, consisting of maybe a few dozen people. All they knew about the world was what happened in their tiny little tribe and in their local area. Bad events were rare. Sad when they happened, but rare.

    All sorts of disasters and calamities may have been taking place elsewhere in the world, but the tribe would be completely obvivious to most of these events. Same with herds of animals, only aware of their immediate surroundings.

    This is as it should be.

    But of course, nowadays, with global communications, everyone can be kept up to date with all the latest “news”, all around the world.

    But what is this “news” that we’re fed a constant diet of? The latest achievements of mankind? The latest, greatest, most wonderful things that are happening in the world?

    No, the so-called “news” is just a compilation of “all the crappiest things that are happening in the world right now”. Forget the good stuff, it seems that only wars, disasters, murder and mayhem are worthy of report!

    Yes, the six o’clock “news” is no such thing, it’s the daily diet of “let’s depress as many people as we can with all the latest shit that’s happening in the world”. As if only bad things are important. As if these things are relevant to the individual. It baffles me that they call this stuff “news”.

    This is not natural. Human beings did not evolve to be exposed to this kind of information. No-one should have to bear the burden of all the miseries in the world. There’s nothing you can do about it anyway, so why be depressed by it? You shouldn’t even be aware of it.

    Once upon a time, I lived in Britain in the seventies. Apparently it was the decade of the miners’ strikes, power cuts, unemployment, IRA bombings and piles of rubbish in the streets. So I’ve seen on TV documentaries anyway.

    But that’s not how I remember it.

    I was having the time of my life, young and free, anything possible. I had a great time. Music, sunshine, beaches, beer, youth. Life was great and I made the most of it. Okay, I wasn’t completely oblivious to the rest of the world. I occasionally heard a few things on the news, in fact there was even a bomb scare in my local town (which I believe was a false alarm), but these were things that happened to other people, in other places. They didn’t affect MY life.

    Fact is, I’ve never really watched the news. Never seemed relevant to me. I couldn’t see the appeal. Of course, I couldn’t help accidentally seeing bits of the news now and again, but it’s never a programme that I’ve actually made a point of watching. It never seemed relevant to me.

    What’s happening in the world and what’s happening in my life are two completely different things. It’s always been that way. Of course, they might coincide one day, but that’s a risk I’m willing to take. Generally speaking, world events have nothing to do with my life. I’m really not interested.

    Apparently there’s a “credit crunch” thingy going on at the moment. I only recently became aware of it. Apparently a lot of people are panicking because a lot of other people are panicking about something or other, and it seems that my weekly grocery bill is a bit more expensive than it used to be.

    Ah well, that’s life, hardly the end of the world. Don’t really know what caused it. Don’t really care either. The seventies were the happiest time of my life, why shouldn’t now be a happy time too? I’m in the mood for happiness right now, who cares what they’re saying on the news?

    Lance, I’m glad to hear that you’ve finally turned your back on the bullshit world media, to rejoin your local tribe instead. Worry about what’s important in your world, that’s all that matters.

    Finally, what did you ask at the end? What is holding me back?

    Now that’s a hard question, why did you ask it? I guess I’ve gotten a bit older and I no longer see the world the way I did when I was younger. I no longer have the same optimism and energy as I used to. I think the best solution would be a drastic change in my life. I’ve gotten stuck in a rut over the years. A radical change would force a different perspective on my life, and probably cause me to take action to change it.

    Paul

    March 3, 2009 at 7:25 pm
  • Donna Reply

    I quit a long time ago. The news reports about nothing but strife. And who wants to fill their mind and spirit up with that, not me!

    Donna

    March 3, 2009 at 7:29 pm
  • Yeo CH Reply

    Yes, spending time with family is important. Doing daily tasks and other meaningful things with family members are quite rewarding too. As a father, I enjoy iron the laundry for the family, wash the plates, etc.

    The world is going through a hard time now and the near future. I spent sometime explaining the world situation to my son briefly according to his understanding, because my family will be affected by this terrible downturn.

    I do not think it good to shut us from knowing what’s going on in the world, saying ‘I quit’.

    We need to have some understanding of the world situation, just do not spend much time over it and to stay focus on what is necessary for change or adjustment.

    March 3, 2009 at 8:04 pm
  • Thomas Reply

    Lance, Good for you,spend more time with the family will be better off in the long run. But I think you still need to say up to date on stuff, I agree the news is depressing great post by the way and enjoyed the read.I got to go I have to get my stuff ready for the Give a ways. Talk to you later,have a nice day
    Thomas

    March 3, 2009 at 8:43 pm
  • Thomas Northrop Reply

    Hey Lance

    Wow I made a blog post about a week ago on this same topic. Mine is a little more radical towards the news media than yours but in the end the result is the same.

    Want to tell you I have taken advantage of the information from your last webinar and products that I purchased from you.

    The information is worth far more than what you are charging for it.

    Thanks for everything
    Thomas Northrop

    March 3, 2009 at 8:56 pm
  • Brad West Reply

    Hey Lance,

    Murders and porn are in the news in Las Vegas more than everything else. I know what is coming it is only how soon. I really don’t watch the news because syndicated news it censored by the government. I listen for key or buzz words You can usually tell when something is going to happen about a week before it happens.

    I am just fighting to promote our Blog Co-Op system. We kind of lost everything we had sometime back and are trying to start all over, It’s hard with out all the tools lists and big name. But we will make it.

    Thanks I do agree that the media is crippling the nation and doing it purposely.

    Brad West ~ onomoney

    March 3, 2009 at 10:21 pm
  • Gary Jenkins Reply

    I’m with you. I stopped watching the news (everyday) long ago
    because of the Violence in the streets, Terrorism, the Patriot Act,
    The War, and now the Economy.

    It’s enough to drive anyone to depression.

    March 3, 2009 at 10:32 pm
  • Stephen Bray Reply

    Hi Lance,

    I don’t have a telly. Nor do I read newspapers. Haven’t for years.

    When I practiced as a psychotherapist I cured twenty percent of people of depression in two interviews.

    In the first I told them to only listen to music in the mornings, and never the news.

    In the second interview I checked that they had followed the prescription.

    Come to think of it that’s a cure in one session 🙂

    Stephen

    March 3, 2009 at 11:42 pm
  • Peter Reply

    Hi Lance,

    We gave up by accident 5 years ago! Storm knocked out our ariel and it it took us a little while to think about getting fixed. We found that the children were reading and playing together more. Conversations improved, as did the amount of time we had for each other and ourselves. People look at us funny when we say we have no TV or cable, LOL. But hey, it works for us. If we need to know something, we just have to spend a bit of effort finding out about it, instead of being continuosly dripped feed it.

    Peter

    March 4, 2009 at 12:07 am
  • Mario Reply

    Hey Lance,

    So true, everything your mention. I did the same long time ago and only briefly check the news from time to time. If it’s something really important you’ll find out about it eventually.
    Good post, thanks for sharing.

    March 4, 2009 at 1:26 am
  • Andy FH | Local Internet Marketing Aid Reply

    Amazing Lance! My wife and I ‘quit’ last year when we had twins.. I agree with the sentiment that it’s not the kind of impression we want seeping into their precious 2 year old minds…
    We certainly don’t need the generally depressing and sometimes horrific human behavior the news thrives on.. A positive atmosphere is so much healthier.
    Thanks for a great story!
    We’re with you all the way…

    Andy, Vanessa, Max & Lily

    March 4, 2009 at 3:22 am
  • Szilard Reply

    Lance, great post. I have no TV set since 18 years.even vith the posted videos we need to be careful.Audio visual influence is strong.

    March 4, 2009 at 7:26 am
  • Jit Uppal Reply

    Great post Lance! I quit a few years ago and much prefer listening to audio programs in my car than keeping current on the latest news stories.

    Jit

    March 4, 2009 at 10:22 am
  • kel Reply

    what a GREAT TIME read your why i quit post and all the wonderfull responses to it first time visitor to your blog
    further more your advise to people on over whelm is spot on and shopuld be requiered reading to all visitors short & sweeeeet ( i must say that a lot of people respond oh no not me, human nature i suppose anyhow thanks lots keep in touch!!!!!!!!!!!
    al my best to you
    kelbo

    April 18, 2010 at 6:49 pm
  • Shawana Dameron Reply

    Hey there. I read a few of your other posts and wanted to know if you would be interested in exchanging blogroll links?

    May 20, 2010 at 8:38 am

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